Effects of Working Mothers on Family

`WORKING WOMEN MAKE BETTER MOTHERS THEN WOMEN WHO STAY AT HOME.'

working mother

I totally agree with the statement that working women make better mothers than non-working women. Being a child of a working woman, I feel that I am more independent, more confident and better adjusted in life because of my mother. Moreover, my admiration for my mother is much greater because she is able to combine all roles very efficiently. I have friends whose mothers do not work and I have seen their attitude towards their mothers. They take them for granted. Whenever a teacher asks what their parents are, they proudly speak about their father's profession and then adds that their mother is only a housewife with much awe.

When a woman becomes a mother, her responsibilities increase, especially in the formative years of a child's life. She has to teach good manners and proper values to her child which makes the latter a good human being, who is well-educated and can take care of himself/herself. Some people believe that this can only be achieved if the mother stays in the house and does not go out to work, but this is not borne out by facts.

We have examples of women multitasking all around us. They look after the household matters and also do a job and nine times out of ten, they play all the roles superbly.  They organize their time so well that all there is done efficiently. They are independent and teach their children to be independent, which is a necessary trait for survival in the present world. Children learn how to keep their rooms neat and tidy and orderly arrange their clothes so that no time is wasted in the mornings. They learn to make a timetable for their studies. They also learn to help in the house which not only teaches them to be hardworking but also the dignity of labour. Moreover, a woman who goes out to work comes in contact with different people and situations and is able to give the correct advice and guidance to her child.

What a child needs is quality time, not quantity time. I admit that it is nice to know that your mother is waiting for you with a hot meal when you get back from school, that she has all the time in the world to listen to your problems and is always there to nurse you when you are sick but is that enough reason to keep an educated and talented women confined to the four walls of her house? When a woman earns her own money she has a sense of achievement and pride which makes her a role model for her children. My mother takes care of all of us, entertains guests and extended family, is highly respected at her workplace and yet I have never felt that my mother neglects me or is not there when I need her. I believe that she is a 'Super Mom' who is a wonderful mother, a great cook, a fabulous teacher and above all, my best friend.

Home is the first school and the mother is the first teacher. If a woman works outside the house how would she have the energy to tell bedtime stories and moral lessons to the child? She may not be there at mealtimes and the child would have to be kept in the care of a crèche. How would she ensure that the child gets the proper upbringing during the important formative years? Who would teach the child to chew properly, and to eat slowly? A child needs his/ her mother at every stage of life. When a woman is at home she has enough time to spend with her children not because she has less work to do but because, being at home, she is there for the child whenever required. Children get time to share their problems, happiness, fun and curiosity with their mother. She teaches them everything.

A child's best friend is his/her mother but if she is too busy taking care of both the home and her job how would she have the time and energy to be there for her child when required the most! A woman's maternal instincts are very strong. A working woman has to leave her child when he or she is barely a month old and so, she remains constantly worried about her child. A child cannot be looked after properly in her absence. Moreover for a woman who works outside also suffers from guilt since she is not able to spend enough time with her child. She either overindulges the child to compensate or becomes overly strict because she does not want the child to be spoilt. She suffers from great stress when the child is ill and many employers are not considerate enough to give leave whenever the child is ill. I admit that women are capable of multi-tasking but the stress involved in the life of a working woman is so rigorous that she is not able to do justice to either of her roles.

Mother works from Home

It is quite true that non-working women make better mothers than working women. If a woman stays at home and looks after her home and family much better. Today, mothers are also working side by side with their husbands in the family in order to survive. Their only purpose is to make their world happier, to educate their children. That is why I respect every mother – whether she is a non-working mother or a working mother.